Sunday, January 20, 2008

Interesting Reactions

Just up in the middle of the night for a potty break and middle of the night feeding session. Having not quite figured out why some night I wake up starving and others not. I think it is random and has nothing to do with how much I have or have not eaten the previous day like a book I'm reading suggest.

Anyway, to the topic on hand....I've started telling a few people about 'being pregnant with twins' when the situation warrants and the reactions seem to vary depending on their own situation.

My sister who is feeling overwhelmed by her 3 children for the last year or so thinks I'm insane.

My neighbor* who only has one, whose husband has been out of town a lot this year for work, and struggles when 'doing it solo' and thanks God for school every day shuddered as she congratulated me. And, I always internally laugh when she talks about how hard it is when her husband is out of town, especially since she works in the entertainment industry as a make up person, and isn't working most of the time or at least not a regular 40 hour + traditional work week.

My old college friend who has 3 children laughed and congratulated me and told me to bring them all to Hawaii where they have been living for the last few years.

Just another sign that everyone filters things through their own history and often has nothing to do with you or your actual situation and more to do with theirs. And, while I'm not that great or comfortable of a liar, I can only imagine the reactions if I mentioned triplets and reduction.

* Wonderful woman who came over to talk for a few minutes (we were outside "getting mail" when Max and Shadow decided they could care less about the mail and wanted to hang out) before heading to the grocery store, picked up some milk for me since we hadn't made it yet, and invited us over for a simple dinner that I didn't think I would be able to eat and warned her, but took one of those anti-nausea pills that really do work thank goodness. And, since we spent almost the entire hour I was at her house with Max trying to convince her 6 year old that he need to share his toys with Max and that just because Max said "it's mine" he didn't really mean that and was not planning on taking it home, it was just a 2 year olds way of saying how much he liked the toy and wanted a turn playing with it...such that we were not able to complete one entire conversation I can see why she shudders at the thought of more (since it was trying), but conversely having siblings means that you 'have' to learn to share and get along since that is just the reality of it.


Anonymous said...

Having a toddler and twins is "doable." My son was 2 years 3 months when I had my twins. My husband is gone to work from 8 a.m. until 7 p.m. I didn't have any help after the twins were 9 weeks old and all my helpers/company left. It is managable. I know you are in another category as a single mother, but you seem very together and very easy going so I'm sure you will do fine. Have you thought about hiring an au pair to live in for the first year? I think the sleep deprivation with twins is pretty tough - but only for the first few months. Another thing that I found tough was that I wasn't able to take my older child to activities because I was so busy dealing with the twins, so I enrolled him in a daycare/preschool place for three mornings a week and he loved it. I would pick him up by lunchtime (or sometimes later if I was having a difficult day and the twins were napping and I din't want to wake them up.) This way, he got to play, socialize with other kids, etc. etc. and I had some time alone with the twins. It really saved me.

Anonymous said...

I'm a little confused...I thought you were pregnant with twins.